Problem? = SAY IT

HEY GUYS 

It's been AGES hasn't it? well, I've been busy with a lot of things- i still am but a lot of you have bombarded my inbox and to those of you asking if i'm dead-LOL- clearly not.

I'd like to shout out to those who this blog does not describe or address at any point in time- give yourself a hug from me.

Basically it IRKS me when people have a problem and they don't say anything, they keep it in and them get bitter for no damn reason.

As you know i love giving real life examples, i was talking to someone the other day and i asked why she was SO hot and bothered all the time and i told her i'd never heard anything positive come out of her mouth- she gave me an answer and when she answered i didn't even say anything i just walked away like she hadn't just said something.

she began her answer with the description of something that had occurred three weeks ago and said "i left it and didn't say anything because it's not worth it"

um....if it's not worth it, WHY IS IT BOTHERING YOU SO MUCH? and WHY oh WHY have you let it turn you into a sour grape?

People, we need to get the idea that people are psychic out of our minds. Another example, in a team that i work with, we were having an evaluative discussion of a project we'd just finished and someone raised up their hands and said "well i'd just like to say that certain people in this team should learn to respect others who are a bit older. Just because certain people are in a higher authority- you're still NOT expected to do certain things" now, i did not get mad at the fact that he said that, i got angry when people paid him attention for the nonsense he said.

the statement had no message OR address, it was neither saying anything nor was it addressed to anybody so why someone tried to answer him blew my mind. In that situation, you're supposed to look at him to show that you heard the sound he just made- but then look away to show that you won't waste brain muscle trying to decipher to rubbish that came with the sound.

How on earth do you go around grumbling being moody and when people ask you what's wrong you say "nothing" when IT'S BLOODY BAIT that something is bothering you

If you feel that it's personal and you don't wanna share it, let personal be personal- leave it at home before you come out.

Those of you that keep grudges, well done, i know it's a personality but can i just say (whether you agree or not) it kills you faster. Find a way to deal with the issue, don't keep it in your heart. Lately I've had a lot of things on my mind- just for you to know that my life is not perfect- i find that writing helps if i don't want to say it, at least its OUT OF MY SYSTEM. Sometimes, another human mind would never understand what you're trying to express but get it out somehow- find what works best for you.

If you have a problem with someone, let them know. It's not by force to "like" everyone cos guess what- NOT EVERYONE LIKES YOU, there's only so much pretending you can do. It's VERY unattractive and its even worse when it becomes a subject of gossip, you tell everybody else about it but the person you have an issue with...like really? that kinda tells me you're scared.

if you have a problem with me and you don't come and tell me, you're on your own- i won't change what it is you don't like about me- unfortunately for some, i'm the kind of person that would increase the intensity of it when i find out you have a problem and you haven't come to tell me- i'm not psychic. Or are you scared of me?LOL you better not be scared.

I'm not writing this just because i am bored- i am writing this because i know someone (person A) who died recently and had a lot of issues with someone(person B) and they were reporting that person to me.i said "go and tell  person B how you feel"... person A refused, said "it's not worth it- i'll show him" and died angry...

I'm saying this because it's a problem-a problem i have, and i refuse to keep it in- don't keep stuff in, it won't get you anywhere

please don't stay bitter

let's try and FIX UP