The Real You

HEY GUYS!!

Long time!! LOL anyway i am back.Had exams, passed. Got into Uni. Now live in Birmingham. Yes, quite a bit has occured since i haven't been writing. Doesn't mean i havent had you guys in mind.

It's funny how much we learn in the space of a little time subconsciously. Been at Uni for a term and a half now and i have learnt SO much, about myself and other people.

Have you ever heard someone say "he said something and it made me stop and think"?Well,i'm hoping this blog has that effect on you. You know, It does an individual A LOT of good if one takes time off from the rest of the world and reflects....

I've been doing some reflecting and i WILL share most of what i have had to deal with in my mind set with you guys but first i will talk about YOU....or me. Have you ever wondered what your children will be like when you have them?mayybe they'll have your personality or maybe they'll pick up someone else's or maybe just develop their own? then you stop to think- what IS your personality? Is that what you are?i mean your personality is your distinctive personal character but even then, is that real?

The 21st century has become a place whereby we live by images and "masks".The truth is, image is not everything.It's not even just the media because everybody knows how to blame the media- it's ourselves. A young black girl wants breast reduction because she thinks she's not "normal" because she blessed. I'd like to know who defined what normal should be. What you look like should not define the real you- your true identity is much deeper than what you look like. We should always look further into a person than their clothing to see who they are.

Some people believe that the real you is defined by the things you do- erm...WRONG. It's not what you do. Does that mean boxers can't be good husbands? Nope. I remember in secondary school, where you had the populars and the geeks. When life got miserable because the populars wanted to exert power upon the geeks because it's "who they are"

That's unfortunate because, actually, you can be somebody without power- it wasn't the real them because they turned out to be different people at college and then at University. This ALWAYS happens- i was a different person at secondary school- i grew up. I still wonder if that was the real me or this is the real me.

We risk forgetting who we are trying to save/create an image that people will approve of- let me tell you a secret- people will NEVER be satisfied. That's the hungry truth about human kind. As i've said over and over in my blogs, NO ONE IS PERFECT.

The hardest thing in the world after keeping a grudge is trying to be something you're not. It is the most exhausting thing- ask actors. The real you wants to be found- find it.BE IT.LOVE IT. cos at the end of the day, if you don't, who will?

I hope it all makes sense,

Till next time!!Love u!!