RESPECT

HEY GUYS!!!

LOL,wow i haven't blogged in AGES!!
Okay, today i want to say something about respect because for some reason in the past month, i've heard a lot about it from different people in different situations.

Before i start, PLEASE, if you read this, ANY part of it, and you disagree- don't be shy to comment. I feel like i might step on some people's toes with what i am about to say- i might even challenge myself- actually i think i will

Basically, one of my friends (she gave me permission to write about it as long as i don't mention her name) had an issue with her older cousin who lives with her- they have a flat together, saves them money so they are okay. Recently, he brought a few to the flat and they drank and smoked #%$£ and played loud music- the usual. She was in the bedroom, tryna sleep cos..well, that's what normal people do (or try to do) at 2am.
The next morning she confronted him about it and his reply was "kmt, you're young, i dont blame you for being rude, you have no respect, get out before i slap you"...I wont tell you what happened after that but what i'm getting to is his statement "you're young...you have no respect"

!st of all, as a young person (i'm in denial, i think i'm a 20 year old teenager lol) I don't believe that we deserve to be tagged as "rude"
So it's like they expect it and yet it shocks them when it happens- that doesn't make sense to me so i won't go into it

Why do people think they deserve respect because they are older (or higher in authority)? saying this can i point out that I understand FULLY that we should honour our parents.

But respect is earned, it is shown. Someone told me in the past week that the way you're treated is the way you treat people. Men are respectable only as they respect...When you SHOW respect, i don't get how it wouldn't be returned. The guy in my example felt like he 's older so there was no need to consider the fact that she pays half the rent and bills of the flat so she had every right to confront him (politely) If once you take for granted the confidence of the people around you, you can never regain their respect and esteem,he only had to listen.
He said she has no "respect" now we get to question HIS definition of respect, 'cause it definately isn't what i think it is or what you may think it is- my definition of respect is "Regard" in simplifying all the definitions i have in my head. A person who only expects to be regarded and doesn't show it to anyone is selfish and is a fool because having to respect someone is actually a skill, sometimes you need to be humble to do it- and guess what, humility takes you a long way. Now how far could he go with a stinky attitude like that?

Respect goes a long way, if we all tried to show respect to everyone we meet without thinking "is he/she gonna respect me too?" look 'tis better to give than to receive' There's an old saying that goes "Without feelings of respect, what is there to distinguish men from beasts?". Why don't you do it first? No point expecting to be respected if you don't plan on respecting.

I don't want to say too much about it because it's something to think about and we ALL do it, we expect respect- there's nothing wrong with that, just make sure you're giving out twice as much as you're receiving or want to receive :)

Till Next Time!!!

See Ya!!!